They Do Not Love One Another – Because They Do Not Love Themselves.

20 May

I have a few bones to pick about the Philippine people today.
Please bear with me…while this sounds like a scathing scolding from a saucy white shithead, I assure my gentle Filipino readers that I have your best interests and future cultural evolution at heart.

Also, another warning….in my previous blog posts, I have refrained from utilizing my ‘helping verbs’ (aka, my sailor-mouth)…today, this stops.

My writing for White Chocolate Hills Resort’s blog is perfectly professional and cuss-free.
When I write in my own blog, I don’t want to feel like a secretary writing a press release.
This is personal shit, I will utilize my personal voice from here on.

Those that are offended by the use of ‘bad’ words can please visit my more professional side, right here.

Back to the matter in mind.

In the last few months, I have had the pleasure of meeting many Filipinos, from every class distinction except ‘Elite, super-rich’ folks….though I know I will eventually get to meet them as well, since I’ve already been at one-remove from their world.

The one common thread I’ve felt is the Spirit and natural culture of the Philippine people….genuinely kind, helpful, good-humored, loyal and playful…with a mind-blowing, unshakeable optimism and determination to smile even if your whole world is burning to the ground.

While they’re great traits to have….in these modern times, it’s starting to drive the whole country onto hell’s highway.
Let me elaborate.

I was reading an article that said that Filipinos have onion-thin skin, and for no good reason…that there was nothing to be proud of in Filipino culture, and in fact, that the Philippines has no actual culture of their own in the first place.
I read a comment on the article…someone mentioned that they wanted to take pride in their heritage…but didn’t know what their heritage or culture consisted of.

I read countless articles that say the Philippines has ‘Nationalism by proxy’…being proud to be Filipino when watching Pacquiao or beauty queens and entertainers take the world stage.

I hear countless Filipinos who say America is their greatest ally and coolest friend, and that they want to move overseas to Canada to get a good job, and that they wish that their skin could be whiter, and that they love God and the church.

I see Filipinos get insulted and yelled at and talked about in front of their faces by arrogant, ignorant foreign visitors, and never sticking up for themselves.

I see young women with old men constantly.

I see people here who clean the shit out of their employees buildings/restrooms/kitchens/houses…..yet throw their leftover food on their own kitchen’s floors and never clean their own bathrooms.

I see Filipinos who are obsessed with taking showers and dousing themselves in smelly perfumes and hair products…yet don’t sweep their floors or pick up their trash from the side of the road.

I see everyone talking about being healthy and eating and having nutritious food and cooking well…..yet bleached, white rice is eaten for every single meal, and eating raw vegetables and plants is looked upon as crazy-talk from a wackadoo.

Now excuse me for being an idealistic, insane white foreign bitch, but The Philippine people need to stop sucking the tits of the West, and discover their roots again.

Cut the colonial shit, people….it’s fucked up.

I recently researched ancient Philippine traditional tattoo techniques….orange or calamansi thorn tattooing….and I gave myself a small tattoo on my wrist.

Five or six of the people I showed said that it was ugly, and that women who have tattoos take drugs.
When I told them that they were full of shit, and that before the Spanish and Church people brainwashed them, every Philippine warrior worth anything had tattoos….I was straight-up ignored or told I was wrong.

Somehow in another conversation, the subject of bras came up.
I mentioned that pre-colonial Filipinas didn’t wear bras or shirts, and Lord how The People Doth Looked At Me With Incredulous Eyeballs. I was like…’Well, what?! It’s true, and these days, the men STILL don’t wear shirts…why the hell do women have to wear them now?’
Because some white fucker on a boat got here and felt ashamed that he couldn’t control his fucking penis?

Speaking of penises and boobs, The Philippines also needs to be completely re-taught about sex and sexuality.
Again, Pre-colonial times, the Filipino people were highly sexually progressive, taught their children about sex, and naturally maintained monogamous relationships…with a few exceptions in the Muslim territories, where polygamy was considered okay.

Nowadays, talking about sex is so taboo its literally retarded….condoms are seen as gross and unnecessary….’pulling out’ is seen as an effective birth control method….gay people are ok, but only if you’re flaunting it or obvious about it….men cheating on women is seen as ‘concubinage’ but women cheating on men can land you in fucking jail for two years….the woman’s place is still in the bed and in the kitchen….if a woman is single, it’s seen as a character flaw….if a man is single, he’s a stud.
(That part isn’t so different than the West, I admit)
If a woman is sexually active, or wants anything more than a vanilla sex life, they’re seen as flawed….yet women are encouraged to dance, dress and act sexy, provocative, and to be frank…slutty.

Again…..we really need to stop emulating the West.
It’s destroying the country…it’s harming the people, it’s decimating the culture, and your previous knowledge and way of living is about to go extinct.

I personally suggest a re-naming of our entire country….The Philippines was named for one of our Spanish Colonizers….let’s begin the tidal wave of change and progression by establishing our own, unique culturally-relevant name.

Let me refresh your mind a little bit.


Yet you LOVE foreigners!
WTF, guys?


Be proud of the fact that pre-colonialism, you have an amazing culture rich in progress and steeped in mystery.

Pre-colonial Philippine people knew everything there was to know about agriculture, herbal medicine, irrigation, and cloth-making.
They had extensive, and impressive knowledge of ducks and animal husbandry.

Your pre-colonial art of war is fascinating…and deadly effective.
Your warrior spirit is impeccable, and unshakeable.
DO NOT FORGET your warriors.

Your ability to learn languages and communicate with other cultures is outstanding.
Pre-Colonial times shows that you knew about Sanskrit, Malay, Javanese, and many others.

Your natural abilities to navigate direction could rival anyone in the world, and your people were among the very first to travel on the ocean to trade with other people.

There are many, many reasons to be proud of being a Filipino.
Go back to the roots….if you forget your roots…..your branches will rot.


I think that’s all for now, folks…this is getting long-winded, and I’m getting pissed off.


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17 responses to “They Do Not Love One Another – Because They Do Not Love Themselves.

  1. Konietzko360

    May 28, 2014 at 5:02 am

    hi, Ms Conrad, long time no see.. out of nowhere tonight I decided to look you up and was surprised to see that you were in Dumaguete! I was in Cebu in August-September last year and spent from September until March in Cha-am, Thailand.. i am back in Canada now but will be back in Thailand in 42 days.

    you should follow my boring blog, and visit sometimes if you can afford it 😉 you’ll have some place to stay for a few days if you wish

    • Jessica Conrad

      May 29, 2014 at 11:33 pm

      Hey man, sounds like you’d be more able to afford a visit than me, I’m not making much money at all….Filipina wages…I’ll follow your blog, you follow mine, and the work blogitty…my FB is Isis Seth, if you still dont use fb, then whatever lol

      I actually was thinking of Tom Green the other day and thought of you briefly…wondered what the heck you were up to

      • Konietzko360

        July 7, 2014 at 12:03 am

        ha, god damn this messaging system sucks, I only seen this message after 37 days! I must be paying more attention to this.

        I’m not against visiting the Phils once again, I might just do it, I was there last August for about 3 weeks, did not like Cebu much tbh.

        I’d have to check pricing for flying to and from the phils.. I’m going back to Thailand in 71 hours now.. and i’m bringing my dog with me (see last post on my blog if you curious) so flying here and there is going to be a little more tricky!

  2. Josemaria

    June 6, 2014 at 4:44 pm

    Sorry! Your Post is answered by anticipation.m

    • Jessica Conrad

      June 7, 2014 at 12:36 am

      I vehemently and wholeheartedly disagree with your blog article.

      Your opinion is that of bowing to your masters….Thanking them for making the indigenous tribesmen ‘see the light’ and join the modern age properly, with western social grace.

      It is akin to Native Canadian people thanking the Canadian government for setting up education schools for their children, accepting that the British way of life was a better, more civilized way to live, their governing systems were more effective, and that they had no cohesive country until the hand of the British guided them to establish Canada, The Nation.

      It’s all a lie, my friend.
      Before the Brits, Native tribes were not only conducting their own affairs, trading with other tribes as needed, educating their young in math & science-based systems, hunting strategies and the art of war, teaching them verbal and written languages, and creating amazing, beautiful art, but they also had their own social graces, their own rules as tribes and rules as a full nation, and hell, their own currency & system of bartering…

      I bring up Canadian Natives because I see very clear, distinct lines between our Native people, and the Philippine Native people….everything I just said can be said for the Philippine people.

      Canada proves you can have many tribes, and one nation without kowtowing and mingling cultures. The East of Canada is currently known for fishermen, kitchen parties, large and close family ties, and simple lives…..the middle of Canada is known as the French part, that remains to this day mildly separate from everyone else, and conducts many of it’s affairs separately as well….the West of modern day Canada is seen as cowboys, rich people, technology-chasers, cattle-raisers, etc….
      I could break it down province by province, but that’s exhausting and silly….

      My point being that every single province has it’s own laws, it’s own identity, it’s own way of doing things, it’s own social structure….and yet we have no issue coming together and defending the Nation of Canada.

      Again, same thing that COULD HAVE BEEN here in the Philippines, and in my view, STILL CAN BE, if we decide to abandon our conditioning.

      Your attitude is conditioned.
      I apologize, sincerely, for the damage you have endured.

  3. josemaria martin (@tootongjomartin)

    June 7, 2014 at 4:57 am

    Last Thing,I used to hate my Colonial Past(like many Filipinos)but after research I knew that Our Culture was nourished by the Genius and Consistency of Spain’s History and Way of Life only to be raped by the Unites States,the English Language and the so-called Idealistic Materialism(another way of saying “The Capitalist American dream). But then again,we can agree to disagree. Follow up post here:

    • Jessica Conrad

      June 7, 2014 at 6:34 am

      I certainly agree with your opinion that American Colonialism is terrible as well….Filipinos I speak with regularly aren’t even aware that the Philippines and America had a long and disgustingly bloody war, resulting in the deaths of over one million Filipino people.

      However, to your claim that Spain is genius or consistent….

      I counter with the fact that Incestuous rulers maintaining a very long-lasting dynastic monarchy is pretty darn consistent, sure!

      And teaching the Philippine People the way to maintain a stranglehold on the country’s economic interests is via dynastic monarchy or dictatorship is golden genius, fine.

      The Spanish inquisition was also a lovely tool for oppressing, punishing, and reforming people’s minds…and the inquisition did indeed spread to the Philippines…though not well-documented, those that were tried and found guilty of crimes against Spain were brought to Mexico and burned to death.

      Teaching the Philippine people that fear is a wonderful motivator for blind acceptance to a ruling party was also genius…depending on what side of the fence you’re sitting, of course.

      Giving out free education to any and every class of people was also brilliant…what better way to mold impressionable young folks into perfectly submissive little cogs than free education?
      We still see that today, it’s not a new concept in the least…..but Spain was particularly good at it for they did not fear punishing those who dissented…..and that, my dear friend is the beginning of Psychology 101…..To The Skinner Box With You!

      Spain’s ‘History and Way of Life’, if you’ll research….is War…and political marriage.
      Since JUST the 1400’s, they have had over 100 different wars.
      They only became a democratic country in the 1980’s….previous to that, their history is one of the bloodiest in Europe.

      If these are the people you admire, I can begin to form a picture of your morals, Sir.
      Nonetheless, Fuck Capitalism as well.

      • josemaria martin (@tootongjomartin)

        June 7, 2014 at 6:43 am

        Well,As I said We can agree to disagree. I am no saint or some dude lecturing high and mighty from his lofty perch. I am just fed up with mainstream Filipino history. If I hate my colonial past 1000%(that includes Catholicism),then I am a Filipino only by Birth. And your country? You have “Western Alienation” and a “Quebec Independence Movement” to deal with,the latter as the result of demands of the french minority crushed like shit(Hello Patriot Rebellion!).

      • Jessica Conrad

        June 7, 2014 at 6:58 am

        I’m also a vehement enemy of the church….but that’s another story altogethr, and one that would more than likely seriously offend your sensibilities.

        (Also a great enemy of the Masons….but again, another story)

        I do agree that my country is a giant P.O.S as well….hence my leaving and never, ever looking back…I personally believe in the rights of the Acadian French as well as the Native Canadian Tribes…..I personally think Canada should be given back to the Native Tribes, ad that the French should be allowed to govern themselves as they see fit…I believe Harper is a parasite sucking the country dry, and I believe he should be put in jail for treason.

        Aaaah, many other stories to share. lol

  4. josemaria martin (@tootongjomartin)

    June 7, 2014 at 6:49 am

    Guillermo Gómez Rivera and José Mario S. Alas

    Since the Philippines is now witnessing a world full of turbulence and incertitude, trudging on a road leading almost to hopelessness (and quite possibly another world war), it is high time that we Filipinos should wake up and face the facts, and to discern the real cause behind all this farce and evil.

    We Filipinos were stripped of our national identity upon the arrival here of our so-called liberators: the North Americans, particularly the Thomasites. From that time on, the Republic of the Philippines (the Anglicized translation of La República de Filipinas) has never been the same again. Everything that is Filipino was literally mangled, especially during the 1945 massacre of Manila courtesy of the Yankee soldiers (see WARSAW OF ASIA: THE RAPE OF MANILA by José Mª Bonifacio Escoda). Therefore, before anything of the same tragedy happens again, we better arm ourselves with the powers of historical research and delve into the truth amidst all the lies taught to us by some “idiotcators.” Remember that the past is our gateway to the future.

    The Filipino identity is the product of the Filipino State that began to exist in Spanish on 24 June 1571. The Filipino State was founded together with Manila on that same date, with the government having Spanish as its official language (THE FILIPINO STATE by Gómez Rivera as published in

    In 1599, the previously existing native ethnic states went into the Filipino State as co-founding members. They incorporated themselves with the Filipino State when they elected the Spanish King (Rey Felipe II) as their natural sovereign (page 23 of THE HISPANIZATION OF THE PHILIPPINES by John Leddy Phelan, University of Winsconsin Press, USA, 1959). This election was verified during a synod-plebiscite held also that year.

    From that time on, and after forming part of the 1571 Filipino State, our pre-Hispanic ancestors also accepted Spanish as their official and national language with their respective native languages as auxiliary official languages. Thus, the previously autonomous Ethnic States that existed before 1599 were respectively the ones that belonged to the Tagalogs, Ilocanos, Pampangueños, Bicolanos, Visayans, Mindanáo Lumads, and the Moro Sultanates of Joló and Maguindanáo.

    Aside from these indigenous or native Ethnic States, the pre-Hispanic Chinese of Mayi-in-ila Kung shing-fu, or what is now known as Manila, likewise joined the Filipino State when they accepted the King of Spain as their natural sovereign. More so, because they knew that they would become the chief benefactors of the Manila-Acapulco Galleon Trade that would in turn last for 215 years.

    Hence, all of the above mentioned people became, ethnographically and politically, Filipinos as well as Spanish citizens or subjects when they freely accepted the Spanish King (Rey Felipe or King Philip II) as their natural sovereign in 1599, resided in the Philippines to do business, and paid taxes to His Majesty’s Manila government. It is because of this historical event that the Spanish language is an inseparable part of every Filipino’s individual, collective, and national identity. Because of this fact, Philippine education today, to be truly Filipino, must have Spanish as its medium of instruction as was the case before the Americans came, since without a notion of this language no Filipino can say that he is truly Filipino in his identity (Caviteños and Zamboangueños should, and can, start with their own Chabacano vernacular).

    This is why a nationalist of the stature of Claro M. Recto declared that: “Without Spanish the inventory of our national patrimony as a people will be destroyed, if not taken away from us since Spanish is part of our flesh and blood as Filipinos.”

    Teodoro M. Kálaw, another great Filipino, also said that: “The Filipino national identity, as well as what we know and recognize as Filipino culture, remains primarily articulated and manifested in Spanish because this is its original language. The Filipino Civilization is a beautiful blending of the Spanish and the indigenous civilizations. Without Spanish and its beneficial influence, we betray our own rights to dignity as a people and stop being Filipinos in order to sadly become economic slaves of another power.”

    It is therefore a very condemnable crime against the Filipino people, in the words of Cebuano Senator Manuel C. Briones, to educate the new generations of Filipinos without any Spanish as, at least, one more subject in their curricula.

    “More so,” added then Senator Manuel C. Briones, “because Spanish is also a world language!” And this is totally true because, at this writing, Spanish has around five hundred million primary speakers and another seven hundred million people as second-language speakers.

    Should present-day Filipinos be left-out?

    However, that is not the complete point. The main argument is that we Filipinos, before joining the battlefield against imperialism/neocolonialism, should very well know who the real enemy is. Moreover, we should realize that whenever we throw punches at the enemy, the only ones who we hit are ourselves due to the ignorance that we have about who we are and what we were. Our language, our culture, as well as our history and identity, were all distorted (this can be observed through the fiery writings of Recto, Kálaw, Briones, Jesús Lava, Renato Constantino, and even Nick Joaquín, regarding this matter; among those mentioned, perhaps it is Recto who divulged the most scathing truth on the agenda of the Americans and what they did to our country).

    Even national hero José Rizal can be considered as an American-invented hero in some sense (see VENERATION WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING by Constantino). This is not to say that Rizal’s heroism was horseplay. Rizal was an ardent nationalist, a great writer and scholar, bar-none. He has every right to be our national hero for he instilled in his followers the importance of nationalism and national identity. However, the American regime managed to distort everything about him, and even used his tussle with the Spanish government in the Philippines when in truth, Rizal, who was a Freemason, was solely against the Spanish friars particularly the Dominicans who ordered the expulsion of his family, together with other Calambeños, from Calambâ, Laguna due to a land dispute.

    The scheme of using Rizal’s “hatred” (kunô) against Spain was taught in all the schools, public and private, from pre-school up to college, little by little conditioning the minds of young Filipinos into accepting the absurd notion that the real villains were the Spaniards and that our saviors were the Americans. This alarming lie being done in our school systems still exist, quite obviously.

    So now that it is made clear what a Filipino is, perhaps the question should be rephrased: should present-day Filipinos remain unconcerned about what those foreign oppressors did to us and are still doing to us?

    circa 2001


    GUILLERMO GÓMEZ y RIVERA — is a Filipino writer, journalist, poet, playwright, historian, linguist, polyglot, and scholar of Spanish and British descent. He was appointed Secretary of the Committee on National Language for the 1970-1971 Constitutional Convention. In 1974, the Department of Education condecorated him for his work as teacher and writer with the Plus Ultra Filipinas Award. In 1975, he was awarded the Premio Zóbel, the oldest literary award in the Philippines. And if I go on, this profile of Señor Gómez would have outworded the foregoing essay. 😀
    JOSÉ MARIO “Pepe” ALAS — is just an ordinary blogger with simple dreams but higher hopes.

  5. josemaria martin (@tootongjomartin)

    June 7, 2014 at 7:30 am

    I do not car for such stuff like abortion or gay marriage. As for the sex scandals,well it is the depredations of liberalism that caused it. So I will die as I should be,a Rabid Catholic. Amen!

    • Jessica Conrad

      June 7, 2014 at 8:03 am

      I suppose I have personal experience with the whole abortion and gay marriage thing that colors reality a different shade than yours…

      My mom is gay, and has been in a loving relationship with my second mom for about 20 years now….being told by my ultra-also-rabid catholic father that my mom is going to hell, while also watching him scream at me and hit me for very minor childhood mistakes must have warped my wee little pagan mind.

      I believe in God…I believe in an innate Natural Law however, and not oral traditions passed down from centuries ago by humans.

      I won’t even begin the abortion debate, as I feel it is not a matter for men to put to law….a woman’s body is her own…and she has the final say over her own reproductive organs.

      I will say:
      I do agree with father’s rights, and I believe a healthy relationship should certainly have a private conversation before termination…..if a woman does not want to raise a child but the man does, his will should be considered, and he should be given rights to the child after birth…..technological advances would be good in this regard, maybe transplanting a fetus would be an ideal choice for a woman who did not want a child but a man who did…but that’s a highly undeveloped thought for another time.

      But I also recognize the fact that forcing a raped woman to carry her abuser’s offspring to term is a form of mental and emotional, let alone physical torture.

      I ahve two opposing viewpoints on sex scandals and wanton sexual activity….on the one hand, people in positions of authority should be better able to manage their private lives, and should not engage in risky or unprofessional behaviour….in a position of authority, you should never do something you would be ashamed of if it were to be made public knowledge.

      However, I do believe in human sexuality, I believe it is a natural drive, and it should not be used to induce shame. We are all born sexual creatures, and to oppress those feelings or to paint them with the brush of negativity is to invite complete moral disaster in a society.

  6. josemaria martin (@tootongjomartin)

    June 7, 2014 at 8:23 am

    Wasn’t even trying to open a debate on abortion. Just giving an Opinion. Anyway,I do hope You enjoy being here kababayan.

  7. Gunnar de Wit

    July 7, 2014 at 1:00 am

    Interesting book to read:
    “A COUNTRY OF OUR OWN” by David C. Martinez.
    Telling, amongst others, about the different cultures in the Phillipines and the “wrong” decision by the spanish to make it one country dictated fromout the “tagalogs”.

    • Jessica Conrad

      July 10, 2014 at 1:13 am

      I’d love to read it, but it’s hard right now for me to get access to books.


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